Last Saturday we took this picture on our annual trip to the city to see the tree. Both kiddos have birthdays this month. It’s a big month!
When I first found out I was pregnant one of the many thoughts I had was that I hope he won’t suffer from anxiety. I spoke to my guy about this, he would softly say he understood and that he agreed. Not because I’m a horrible human being, but because of how hard it is to have. This conversation eerily haunts us lately as we’ve began to see a counselor for our son. Who seems to be suffering from anxiety attacks.
I’m certain some people who will read this probably won’t believe in anxiety. To that I say and there is no such thing as life! It’s hereditary, almost all of my mothers family suffers from it, a few do not. When I say anxiety I do not mean it’s just some worry but a huge exaggeration of a fear. A physiological response to a thought that triggers these responses. I believe it’s neurological. But not just that, I have it so I know it.
You always want to prepare for things. Not always but sometimes I think ‘if I only new’ and with my son I do know. I do know the feeling, the dread, the stigma, the sadness, the future pain, the energy it consumes. When I look ahead and I see this for him I don’t know where to go with it. How can I help him? Can I change this for him? How can I explain to him that this is going to be hard and even though it seems unbearable someday you’ll see that it makes you unremarkable. How do you tell a seven year old that this probably won’t go away and you’ll struggle so hard with how it makes you feel so different, but in the same breath can push you to use it to your advantage? When your small baby says you ‘you don’t know what this feels like’ how do you say yes I do & it came from me, along with your freckles and light hair.
It hurts so bad. To know the future, even if it’s not going to be 💯 the same, it will mirror someway.
My hope to you sweet boy is that you let guide you rather than over power you. That you use your worry towards school and love. That you are not different but sensitive to do so much. Though that can be hard, it will eventually be beautiful – if you allow it to. Greet it with kindness when it comes. Don’t like the door and hide. Take care of yourself no matter what. Let people know because others struggle to. That it’s not the end but the beginning. Believe in yourself sweet boy. I know who you are and your future is bright and filled with life, light and love ❤️. I Christopher will always be here when your not sure, when you are sure and always. You can tell me anything, I will not judge you. You are a piece of my soul, my heart and of who I am as a human being. I love you so much that I can’t reach… 😉 you know what that means.
With love, mommy 💕